An overview of Putanumonit for new readers.
Documenting the rise of date-me docs and the decline of resultant dating
Awareness of your own uncertainty requires consciousness, and some claim that this awareness is present in rats. Are rats smarter than we thought, or is it the humans that are dumber?
Whales are queering the fish-mammal binary
Why Elden Ring is great, and how not to die binomially.
A relationship must sacrifice exclusivity or sacrifice for the sake of exclusivity. Simply feeling entitled to it is a recipe for failure.
Looking for a middle ground between the hard upsides of blogging and the easy downsides of tweeting.
Humans think in concepts and perceive ourselves living in physical reality, but babies aren't born doing either. We learn these things slowly, and not by reading. So who will teach them to GPT?
What if you just modeled your partner well enough to do what they would want without needing to ask? And what if you tried this from the first date?
Everyone complains that dating isn't working, but no one want to put the work into dating. Here are 10 reasons why.
In a world of conflict between men and women, consent negotiation is required. But the focus on consent to the exclusion of everything else is what brought this world about.
The NYT calls an end to sex-positivity blaming the patriarchy, and the trads agree while blaming the women. But I wouldn't give up on the opposite sex just yet.
Beginners need explicit rules, masters need to forget them. I propose a general model of learning, ask you not to "be yourself", speculate on AI, and teach you how to crush it on Twitter.
In which inflation is indicated, Spaniards are perverted, nerve is lost, and units are standardized.
My worst financial investment was not buying vodka, but everyone else is ever crazier on the subject of money.
A conversation with anonymous about emotions, billionaires, submission, Plato, and why individual identity is a mistake.
All the dating stories from my previous life that somehow managed not to crush my optimism about romance.
My Quillette article on sex negativity and follow-up thoughts on fuckability, why sex is bad so often, the preservation of ambiguity, and the value of blogs.
Thinking about the impact of my writing upon finding out that it may have been much greater than I thought.
Rationality is knowing better than to sell your soul for a few dollars, even if you don't believe you have one.
A roundup of podcasts and upcoming online chats.