People look for partners to build families with, but pick partners based on how entertaining they are after a few drinks. Both have value, but these are very different relationships.
Women are hot to seduce men. This is both plainly true and paradoxically contradicted everywhere men look at women. So what is actually going on?
Documenting the rise of date-me docs and the decline of resultant dating
A relationship must sacrifice exclusivity or sacrifice for the sake of exclusivity. Simply feeling entitled to it is a recipe for failure.
What if you just modeled your partner well enough to do what they would want without needing to ask? And what if you tried this from the first date?
Everyone complains that dating isn't working, but no one want to put the work into dating. Here are 10 reasons why.
In a world of conflict between men and women, consent negotiation is required. But the focus on consent to the exclusion of everything else is what brought this world about.
The NYT calls an end to sex-positivity blaming the patriarchy, and the trads agree while blaming the women. But I wouldn't give up on the opposite sex just yet.
All the dating stories from my previous life that somehow managed not to crush my optimism about romance.
My Quillette article on sex negativity and follow-up thoughts on fuckability, why sex is bad so often, the preservation of ambiguity, and the value of blogs.
Results from my research project on personality traits and mating success.
Progressive women complain about men and post hot selfies for Bernie, right-wing guys learn seduction and whine about hypergamy. When politics sets the sexes against each other, it's all about the ratio.
Most bisexual women only date guys - it's easy, familiar, and accepted. This is where Sana Al-Badri comes in.
People seek being worthy of intimacy more than they seek intimacy. That's not a good thing.
Are Rationalists just a polyamory community? And if not, what explains the connection between the two? I dig deep into the data, and reach some unexpected conclusions.
A book about rethinking infidelity offers an opportunity to rethink modern marriage and the paradox at the heart of it.
The third part of an extensive interview with Dr. Geoffrey Miller covers jealousy, polyamory, marriage, and mating.
Life is all about competition, and competitions are all about winning. Unless they don't have to be.
For the hardest choices we make in life, our gut is not enough. We also need a chart with numbers in it.
Are Nice Guys just guys who are nice? If so, why can't they get a date and what can a BDSM class teach them? And what does this all have to do with bell curves?